Dying to your self is never meant to be the ultimate end for a Christian, yet so many times we try and pursue this as our preeminent thought.
Romans 7:4 says we have “died to the law through the body of Christ, so that you may belong to another, to Him who has been raised from the dead, in order that we may bear fruit for God.” Did you see it? Death to self is not our “highest calling” because of the following:
1. We were MEANT to belong to Another! Dead people do not belong to any person, in the most literal sense. C.S. Lewis said that hell is for people who have said they want their own way and chose to be away from God. They wanted themselves as their ultimate end.
The problem is that we were meant for Another. The isolation to self is probably what is going to be one of the most tormenting things of hell. The person who constantly makes self the “end” in their pursuit of dying to self has just described hell. It is the place in which a person is truly only living death. We were meant for reconciliation to Another and also abundant Life in Him (Jn. 10:10)
2. We die so that we may live with Him, who is truly alive! Death doesn’t win! Life wins! We were meant to live in Life.
3. We are raised for a specific reason, which is to bear fruit for God. Therefore, if you struggle with always “trying to bear fruit,” relax. In fact, die. To Him. He wants you to bear fruit. It’s His pleasure AND yours (Jn. 15:1-8).
Die to your self because you can’t save your self. He can.
Let Him take you in His arms and calm your fear of death with the promise of eternal life (Jn. 17:3). He can.
Ask Him to teach you what it truly means to bear fruit. He will.
Ask Him how to die so that you can learn to truly live (Gal. 2:20). He will.